After the Tears: Helping Adult Children of Alcoholics Heal Their Childhood Trauma
By Jane Middelton-Moz and Lorie Dwinell
The trauma and grief of growing up in an alcoholic or addicted family create a lifetime of baggage. If you grew up in an addicted family, the dysfunction that permeated every aspect of your childhood may have seemed ‘normal,’ and you may not even realize the level of affect alcohol still has on your adult life — whether or not you drink.
If you are one of the millions of Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOAs), the cost of your childhood pain can be unbearable. You may have learned how to ‘survive,’ but are you ‘living’ your life? Do you fear normal conflict? Do you blame yourself when something goes wrong — even when it isn't your fault? Are you a chaos junkie? Or do you just fear relationships because they are too difficult or too painful?
The groundbreaking, first edition of After the Tears has been celebrated for nearly twenty-five years as a guide to healing for adult children from alcoholic or addicted families. Now, this new edition of After the Tears: Helping Adult Children of Alcoholics Heal Their Childhood Trauma is poised to continue helping readers along the path to building healthier, more-productive and self-fulfilling lives.
The revised and expanded edition takes a deeper look into the origin and cost of childhood pain, as well as the grief resolution process that is integral to recovery. The latest research is discussed and new insights are offered on living a good life despite a dysfunctional childhood by tackling issues such as intimacy, sibling relationships, codependency, breaking the alcoholic pattern, building a relationship with the inner child, forgiveness, and opening a window to spirituality.